Relationship Tips

Wanted to provide a link for anyone looking for dating/relationship ideas.  The blog is called:
What I Wish My Boyfriend (Husband) Knew

I'd like to think guys would be the primary readers, but let's be honest.  Girls, if you like what you see when you browse the blog, send your guy a link (or better yet) read it to him, LOL!

http://reallycluelessguy.blogspot.com/2012/01/valentines-daythe-prom-effect.html

A Peek at The Heat

Excerpt from my novel, The Heat

Damn stupid cat.

“Here Waffles.  Here, boy.  Kitty, kitty.  Come on, Waffles.”

I looked everywhere for that cat.  I had been calling it for ten minutes, no results.  I thought about the fact I could still be snuggled in Max’s arms—comfortable in his bed, but no.  I had to drive home in the middle of the night to feed the cat.

It was probably under the porch.  Looking out.  Mocking me.

I admitted defeat.  I filled the cat’s bowl with dried cat food and changed his drinking water.  He would come home and eat in his own time. 

I locked the front door and went to the kitchen.  The note Angie had scribbled out for me lay by my purse.  James Wilson.  I didn’t have to guess what he wanted.  Ever since he got wind of the fact finances were tight, he’d been trying to negotiate a deal with me.  He wanted to buy The Heat.  His last offer was decent.  It could have been a million dollars though, and it wouldn’t have mattered.  The thought of James Wilson owning Lila’s Café, the thought of a stranger running The Heat…unacceptable.  That little café encompassed more than my livelihood.  It was my past, my present, and as far as I could tell, my future.  The Heat was family.  You didn’t bail on family.

Family--something I didn’t have much of.  Didn’t have any to be exact.  Gran was gone.  My sweet Kam was gone.  And, even though she was still very much alive (as far as I knew, anyway), my momma was gone too.  She left the day Kam died.  Oh, she didn’t physically walk away until later, but the day Kam died momma drifted away.  I saw the light fade from her eyes.  I had killed Kam and knowing that had killed my momma. 

Seven Hurdles For New Writers: Number Seven

Your Own Ego

I saved the best (or possibly the worst) for last.  What can sometimes be the biggest hurdle for a new writer?  E G O.

Think about it.  Most writers have been enamored with reading and writing their entire lives.  Storytelling is woven into our beings.  I was creating stories before I learned the alphabet.  I was literally writing before I knew how to write.  Creating is in our nature.

BUT…just because it is instinctive doesn’t mean it is refined.  Becoming a writer is similar to playing a sport.  Think of the kid who can run faster or hit the ball harder than any of his friends.  He has played backyard sports for years.  Then he tries out for the team. 

That cocky kid made the team assuming he is the greatest athletic talent the world has ever seen.  Then comes practice.  And rules.  And workouts.  And more rules.  He soon discovers there are tons of kids out there with his same level of raw talent.  (And he probably learns the joys of spending some time on the bench.)  What will set that kid apart from all the other talent out there just like him?  Hard work.  Determination.  Never giving up.

The smart athlete works hard, listens to his coach, and learns from his mistakes.  A smart writer does the same thing.

If you assume you know it all because you’ve been delighting your family and friends for years with your writing and storytelling skills, well, you are in for a shock.  There are rules to learn, skills to practice, and coaches from whom to glean information.  If you practice your writing skills and are receptive to the information out there (thank you World Wide Web) you will be headed in the right direction.

It is easy to get overwhelmed, though.  Don’t become discouraged with the enormity of the industry and the vast numbers of good writers who are still undiscovered/unpublished.  Be willing to work hard and make your mark.

After all the reading and learning, writing and rewriting, querying and waiting, you have to be proud of your work.  Your satisfaction is more important than that of any agent, publisher, or reviewer because at the end of the day, you are writing for you.

Seven Hurdles For New Writers: Number Six

Understanding the Industry

When I was a little girl and people asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up my answer was always the same, “A writer, a teacher, a candy-striper and a mommy.”  Since that time, I have volunteered as a teacher for church and civic groups, worked in a local hospital, and am an extremely proud mother.  So when I started working on my first novel a few years back, I thought to myself, “Easy peasy!  I’ll type this up, send it to a big Publishing House and await their phone calls begging to print my manuscript.  Then I can just bask in the awesome wonderfulness that is me.”

Sounds like a great plan, eh?  Only one problem.  I was living in FANTASYLAND.

Publishers are not sitting around waiting to hear from you.  You can’t slap sixty-thousand of your brilliant words into Microsoft and then relax until the big, fat royalty checks start pouring in.  It just doesn’t work that way.  How does it work?  Gee, I’m glad you asked.

1.  Produce a quality manuscript.

Make your outline, write your rough draft.  Edit your manuscript.  Edit it again.  Ask your best friend to edit it.  Ask your high school English teacher to edit it.  Ask the freaky-looking dude in your kid’s carpool line to edit it.  Then, if you can afford it, hire a pro and let them beat the crap out of it with a red pen.  Trust me.  Just do it.

2.  Do your research.

What genre is your novel?  What agents rep in that category?  What are their submission guidelines?  What is the best method for contacting them? 

3.  Send out query letters.

Literary agents accept letters (called query letters) in which you give a brief description of your manuscript, identify the genre, offer any pertinent education or experience you have under your belt, and ask if they will consider reviewing your manuscript.  (Do NOT send them a copy of your manuscript thinking once they see it in all its glorious wonderfulness they will read it and offer to represent you on the spot.  Trust me, they won’t.  Into the great wastebasket abyss it will go.)

4.  Get a request for a manuscript.

Keep sending out those queries and hopefully (maybe, surely, possibly) one day you will hook an agent’s attention and he/she will pull your manuscript from the gloomy depths of the slush pile.  So, when an agent requests a partial or full manuscript, send it in and hope for the best.

5.  Secure an agent.

When an agent agrees to represent you, it is time to celebrate.  Enjoy.  (But remember you haven’t “arrived” yet.  There is still a long way to go.)  And just a note for newbies about agents.  No reputable literary agent will EVER demand money or charge fees for reading your manuscript or agreeing to rep you.  They get their cut later—when they sell your manuscript to a publisher.

Seven Hurdles For New Writers: Number Five

It’s All in the Voice

“Looking for an author with a unique voice.” 

“Interested in clients with a strong, fresh voice.”

Statements like these tormented the snot out of me when I first started writing.  Agents and just about everyone who is anyone in the industry speaks of the “writer’s voice” like it is some sacred, special, magical, individualized thing.  You know what I discovered?  It is.

What is the writer’s voice?

Your voice is more than just your style of writing.  It is present in your sentence structure, your diction—in the flow of your writing.  Voice is evident in your choice of words, in character development, in your use of punctuation, and in how you write dialogue.  A strong, original writer’s voice is as unique as your thumbprint. 

Identifying a writer’s voice.

The best way I can explain identifying a writer’s voice is to offer you examples of a few of my favorite authors' voices.  Of course, I have to mention Twain, Austen and Hemingway.  Read any of their works and you will hear the distinct voice in each of their writings.

In addition, listed below are a few of my favorite authors.  Each has a really solid, unique writing voices.

FAULKNER, As I Lay Dying

"I realized that I had been tricked by words older than Anse or love, and that the same word had tricked Anse too, and that my revenge would be that he would never know I was taking revenge. And when Darl was born I asked Anse to promise to take me back to Jefferson when I died, because I knew that father had been right, even when he couldn't have known he was right anymore than I could have known I was wrong."

CHARLAINE HARRIS, Definitely Dead

I was draped over the arm of one of the most beautiful men I'd ever seen, and he was staring into my eyes. "Think ... Brad Pitt," I whispered. The dark brown eyes still regarded me with remote interest. 

Okay, I was on the wrong track. 

I pictured Claude's last lover, a bouncer at a strip joint. 

"Think about Charles Bronson," I suggested. "Or, um, Edward James Olmos." I was rewarded by the beginnings of a hot glow in those long-lashed eyes.

In a jiffy, you would've thought Claude was going to hike up my long rustling skirt and yank down my low-cut push-up bodice and ravish me until I begged for mercy. Unfortunately for me - and all the other women of Louisiana - Claude batted for another team. Bosomy and blond was not Claude's ideal; tough, rough, and brooding, with maybe a little whisker stubble, was what lit his fire.

JOHN GREEN, Paper Towns

The way I figure it, everyone gets a miracle.  Like, I will probably never be struck by lightning, or win a Nobel Prize, or become the dictator of a small nation in the Pacific Islands, or contract terminal ear cancer, or spontaneously combust.  Bit if you consider all the unlikely things together, at least one of them will probably happen to each of us.  I could have seen it in rain frogs.  I could have stepped foot on Mars.  I could have been eaten by a whale.  I could have married the queen of England or survived months at sea.  But my miracle was different.  My miracle was this:  out of all the houses in all the subdivisions in all of Florida, I ended up living next door to Margo Roth Spiegelman.

SUZANNE COLLINS, The Hunger Games

Scrawny kitten, belly swollen with worms, crawling with fleas. The last thing I needed was another mouth to feed. But Prim begged so hard, cried even, I had to let him stay. It turned out okay. My mother got rid of the vermin and he’s a born mouser. Even catches the occasional rat. Sometimes, when I clean a kill, I feed Buttercup the entrails. He has stopped hissing at me. 

Entrails. No hissing. This is the closest we will ever come to love.

Can you hear it?  More than just a cadence or a technique or some dialogue.  It is in the flow of the writing.  It beckons you.  Pulls you in.  Lets you feel the writer’s personality through his or her words.  It is more than just a style.  The writer’s voice is the soul of their novel.  It is an extension of themselves.

Finding your voice.

There is no easy fix-all answer to the question of finding your voice.  Obviously, the more you write, the more confidence you develop and the more likely you are to recognize your own writer’s voice. 

I think developing your own distinct voice hinges on allowing your personality and your point of view about life to seep into your writing.  Let it color it.  Flavor it.  Let it make your writing stand out from the crowd.  Let it be as unique as you are.  When you do, then you will find your voice.

Seven Hurdles For New Writers: Number Four

The Curse of Unnecessary Words

Be Direct

Wandering through the wilderness of words is a no no.  It is easy to do, but DON’T do it.  As a writer, your goal is to communicate your story in a clear, clean, concise, and entertaining manner. 

  

NO:   He was beginning to get angry with his irresponsible sister.

YES: He was angry with his irresponsible sister.

NO:   “I’m fixin’ to start thinkin’ about buttering your cornbread!”

YES:  “I’m gonna butter yo’ cornbread!”

Avoid Useless, Repetitive Words

My two most abused useless words are “that” and “just.”

NO:   “I hope you don’t think that I’m intimidated by you.”

YES:  “I hope you don’t think I’m intimidated by you.”

NO:   Jeff gave himself just enough time to get ready before the concert started.  Shelby was nervous.  Jeff knew just how she felt.  If he could just get to the concert hall before her opening number, he just knew he could convince her to relax.

YES:  Jeff gave himself just enough time to get ready before the concert.  Shelby was nervous.  He understood how she felt, and if he arrived at the concert hall before her opening number Jeff knew he could convince her to relax.

Banish Adverb Vomit

Ah, adverb vomit--my phrase for the pointless peppering of adverbs throughout your manuscript.

When it comes to adverbs, just say no.  Seriously, say no.  Less is more.  Go team.  Goodnight, John-boy, and all that jazz.

Adverbs disrupt the flow of most sentences and they encourage you as the writer to “tell” instead of “show.”  Please use them with caution.  (Sparingly, even.  Lol)

GAG:         Leslie looked to him nervously.

BETTER:   Leslie stared at him, eyes wide and hands trembling.

As far as adverbs are concerned, when in doubt, leave it out.  Go through your manuscript with a red pen and unmercifully *grin* mark out every little word ending in “ly” you find.  Root them out.  Annihilate them.  Then go back and see how much smoother your text reads.  Trust me; you will be glad you did it.

Seven Hurdles For New Writers: Number Three

Dialogue Tags to Die for

God bless Nathan Bransford.  When I started writing, his blog provided information about dialogue tags and their proper use.  (If you are a newbie writer and you do not know who Nathan is, I suggest you Google, “Nathan Bransford blog” right now.  His site is a wealth of information.)

Dialogue tags are these little descriptive bits that help readers determine who is talking.  If my fuzzy memories of high school English are accurate, they are linking verbs.

     Example of a dialogue tag:

 “Bernadette is such a liar,” Jenny said. 

(See how Jenny is the subject, said is the verb, and your dialogue is essentially the direct object?  Dang!  I do remember a thing or two from high school.)

So, what is the deal with dialogue tags?  Simply put, get them right and your dialogue flows smooth and clear.  Get them wrong, and you stinketh up your manuscript.

Grammar and punctuation aside, let me offer the two most basic principles about dialogue tags:

1.  Verb after subject works best.  (This one is a bit subjective since I have seen some very successful writers ignore this rule.)  As a reader though, having the subject/verb placement backwards in a dialogue tag really bugs me.

     Example:

“Bernadette is such a liar,” said Jenny.  (“Said” is the verb; “Jenny” is the subject.)

To me, flipping the subject/verb order makes the sentence sound kinda robotic or snooty.  Take it for what it is worth.  *grin*

2.  Keep it simple.  (I think this is the number one rule for dialogue tags.)

     Example:

“You make me laugh,” Tammy said.

See how the dialogue tag in this sentence is simple and straightforward?  It almost blends into the background—becomes invisible.  That is the goal.  Get the reader to focus on the dialogue and use the tag only when needed to help the reader understand who is speaking.  The less noticeable the tag, the better.

     Examples of sucky dialogue tags:

“You make me so mad,” she said angrily.

“Why,” he inquired.

“You’re the most stubborn person I’ve ever met,” she informed him with a shout.

“Well, you’re the one acting like a two year old,” he replied.

“Yet you’re the one sleeping on the couch tonight,” she ranted.

See how all those dialogue tags drain the life out that brief conversation?  They make it stilted and unrealistic.  Watch what happens to the same dialogue when we follow the “simple” rule about tags.

     Revised dialogue:

“You make me so mad,” she said.

“Why?”

“You’re the most stubborn person I’ve ever met!”

“Well, you’re the one acting like a two year old,” he said.

“Yet you’re the one sleeping on the couch tonight.”

 

The best rule of thumb regarding dialogue tags is to use them sparingly and to make them as invisible as possible.  Let the reader focus on your characters and their conversation, not on your dialogue tags.